Gay stuff to say

Individuals unfamiliar with homosexuality frequently exhibit critical, judgmental, and insensitive behaviors toward queer people. However, even the most supportive companions may inadvertently make inappropriate comments. 

Regardless of good intentions or a desire to better understand, there are respectful ways to pose queries to queer individuals. 

We've all likely experienced awkward moments where our questions or remarks towards gay men have been inappropriate. While this is likely a familiar experience for them, owing to frequent exposure from family, friends, and relatives, we can actively strive to show greater consideration in our interactions. 

Here are 5 remarks commonly found distasteful and offensive to your gay friends and colleagues; avoid them entirely. Your regard for them is essential:    

1. When Did You Turn Gay?

No one suddenly 'becomes' gay; this is an inaccurate and offensive notion. 

Instead, you might inquire about the moment they realized their sexual orientation and how they came out, particularly if you enjoy a close bond and they feel comfortable discussing this personal matter with you.  

2. You Don't Look Gay

Unfortunately, societal representations and some portrayals in Bollywood movies contribute to preconceived notions about how gay men 'should' look. These misconceptions often feature gay men stereotyped in specific clothing, makeup styles, or mannerisms. 

Gay men express their unique styles in various ways. Please resist making such outdated observations. 

3. So, Who Is The 'Man' In The Relationship?

Alternatively, common inquiries include who prepares the romantic gestures, or who is the 'wife' in a relationship between gay men.

Applying heteronormative expectations to gay relationships is profoundly offensive, akin to asking 'which one is the woman?' whenever you meet a gay couple. 

Avoid this sort of inquiry. 

4.Give Me Some Fashion Advice, Since You Are Gay

Many gay men, contrary to popular media depictions, aren't necessarily fashion enthusiasts or eager style advisors. 

Feel free to request style tips if you are impressed by their sense of style, but be cautious about making comments based on their sexual orientation.

5. Hey, I Am Straight So Don't Fall For Me!

This statement is deeply insulting on multiple levels. 

Firstly, attraction isn't determined by a person's sexual orientation. It is a complex and individual experience. Furthermore, such a remark would likely deter any romantic interest.