Gay male icons

“Cher is, literally, the best gay icon of all time!”
‘But Seby, don't you need…to be gay…to count as a ‘gay icon'?”
“No Stefan, you just have to be fabulous!”
“Well in that case Seby, do I count as a gay icon?“
“No Stefan, you’re just not fabulous enough!”

Following a near-disagreement over this exchange, Seb and I ultimately concurred that while LGBTQ status is not a requirement for being a gay icon, a profound connection with the gay community is essential.

Furthermore, a definitive gay icon:

advocates for a cause
maximizes their influence
exhibits boldness
challenges accepted norms
creates art sparking discourse
energizes the mainstream world (figuratively, naturally!).

Numerous stars deliver captivating dance numbers and mesmerizing big-screen performances, but a true icon must resonate deeply with the gay community. This is our top 25 list of the greatest gay icons of all time. While some are gay, all are remarkable, inspiring, and have greatly advanced the LGBTQ rights movement.

Marsha P. Johnson

We deem Marsha ‘Pay It No Mind’ Johnson the most pivotal gay icon ever. She was a prominent performer in the New York City drag scene. This spirited and electrifying performer entertained audiences across the city with her hilarious lip-sync routines and spectacular presence.

But she was more than an entertainer. She was also a dedicated activist. Together with Sylvia Rivera, she co-founded Star, a youth shelter that rescued numerous LGBTQ individuals from the streets. She spearheaded numerous demonstrations and protests demanding equal rights for LGBTQ citizens—and was arrested over a hundred times in the process!

Much of Marsha Johnson’s impactful career is shrouded in mystery. While some believe she threw the initial brick at Stonewall, she maintained she did not participate in the riots until later in the day. Speculation exists about her gender identity. However, she definitively identified as a drag queen. Although labeled a suicide, her death remains a subject of speculation. Yet, one thing is certain: the modern gay rights movement is undeniably indebted to Marsha P. Johnson! To learn more about this extraordinary individual, watch the documentary 'The Death and Life of Marsha P. Johnson' on Netflix.

Judy Garland

Many queer individuals identify with Judy as a gay icon due to her theatrical flair, comedic brilliance, and memorable camp roles.

Known for her role as Dorothy in “The Wizard of Oz”, this tale of escape from a mundane rural setting to a vibrant urban center resonates with many in the queer community. The film was released in 1939—a time when homosexual acts were criminalized and LGBTQ struggles were rarely represented.

Judy was also seen as a somewhat tragic figure in the Hollywood of her time. Her struggles with substance abuse were a common topic in gossip columns. Her five marriages and fluctuating financial stability are well-documented. Her vulnerability resonated with many queer people.

While Judy never publicly embraced her substantial gay following, she nurtured close friendships with gay men. The legend suggests her passing triggered the Stonewall Riots, though this remains unsubstantiated. However, many feel she would have enthusiastically supported the movement.

Oscar Wilde

This renowned Irish author is often remembered not for his exceptional literary contributions, but for his imprisonment. His writings, praised for their wit and humor, continue to inspire and provide famous quotes.

The homoerotic subtext in much of his work is noteworthy. For example, in “The Happy Prince”, the Prince displays affection for the Swallow. His famous play “The Importance of Being Earnest”, with its nuanced characters and double lives, also reflects the struggles of gay individuals at that time. Could it be an allegorical reflection of how gay individuals were compelled to live double lives?

Tragically, Wilde was arrested and imprisoned for suspected homosexual activity. After his release in 1897, he lived in France for three years and passed away from meningitis in 1900 (at the young age of 46). A journey to Ireland will allow you to visit the birthplace of this exceptional gay icon and see a statue of him in Stephens Green Park.

RuPaul

Can you picture a time before ‘Drag Race’? What did the gay community talk about before the fierce competitions, the unforgettable runways, the unforgettable lip-sync battles, and Michelle Visage's iconic expressions? While RuPaul's show propelled over 150 drag performers to international recognition, his influence extends far beyond the popular television series.

“You better werk!”
RuPaul

RuPaul became a prominent figure in New York City's 1980s nightlife as a gender-fluid club performer. She appeared in several short films before gaining worldwide recognition with the hit song 'Supermodel.' The gay community embraced this noteworthy icon!

More recently, Ru has received criticism for what some consider a limited representation of drag. However, Season 13 featured a transman and welcomed back queens who identified as transgender after their appearances on the show. Does this suggest Ru is shifting her perspective? We certainly hope so!

Lady Gaga

When the words “No matter gay, straight or bi, lesbian or transgendered live” resonated globally, millions of young queer individuals heard their identities celebrated openly, and it was truly incredible!

Fast forward to 2017, and Gaga sang these same iconic words at the Super Bowl, during a time when American gays were worried about potential setbacks in the LGBTQ rights movement.

Gaga publicly acknowledged her bisexuality and has staunchly supported the LGBTQ community since the beginning of her career. Her iconic Meat Dress protested the 'Don't Ask, Don't Tell' policy. She challenged Mike Pence, a supporter of gay-conversion therapy, during her Las Vegas concert. Thanks to her, contemporary celebrities like Dua Lipa, Ariana Grande, and Harry Styles openly express their support for the LGBTQ community.

A truly remarkable gay icon who we salute!

Harvey Milk

Milk was one of the first openly gay elected officials in the USA. He paved the way for countless LGBTQ politicians. He brought gay identity to the forefront of the national conversation.

During his political career, he championed gay liberation and introduced legislation banning discrimination in housing and employment based on sexual orientation.

Prior to his political career, he owned a camera store in San Francisco, effectively transforming the neighborhood into a haven for the LGBTQ community. Gay individuals found a new home outside Manhattan's Village.

Milk was assassinated by a former political colleague, and the killer was acquitted, causing widespread outrage. However, his influence remains profound—President Obama posthumously awarded him the Medal of Freedom in 2009.

Liza Minnelli

Liza frequently recounts stories of her mother, Judy Garland, and shares her memories of her performances. Her captivating storytelling is part of what makes her so compelling.

While some associate her status as a gay icon with her association with Judy, Liza is a truly outstanding icon in her own right. From her iconic role in the 1972 musical “Cabaret” to her work supporting marriage equality, Liza has actively championed LGBTQ rights.

She encouraged Elizabeth Taylor to join HIV/AIDS activism, and has generously contributed to AIDS research. She also performed in Central Park on the 25th anniversary of Stonewall.

She demonstrated her support for the gay community in a profound way, marrying a fellow gay individual!

Cher

As they say, ‘after the apocalypse, all that will be left is cockroaches and Cher!' Her formidable spirit, extraordinary work ethic, and outrageous costumes and performances solidify her position as the ultimate gay icon.

From her disco-era hit, Take Me Home, to the rock anthem, If I Could Turn Back Time, to the iconic Believe, her extensive discography has resonated with generations of music fans.

Her collaborations with designer Bob Mackie resulted in iconic red carpet moments, including her unforgettable Oscar gown. She is also a witty and humorous diva with quips that have been embraced and parodied by drag queens and gay men alike. Her dramatic flair, unique voice, and dynamic stage presence are unmatched!

Furthermore, her son, Chaz Bono, is a prominent advocate for transgender rights.

Princess Diana

The English Rose once again captivates the world, thanks to Emma Corrin's portrayal in Netflix's “The Crown”. Diana embodied grace, compassion, and relatability. The average person finally found a relatable figure within the Royal Family.

Diana's friendships with Elton John, Freddie Mercury, and Gianni Versace—all openly gay—led to speculation about her participation in gay nightclubs. Imagine dancing alongside Diana under the disco lights to Madonna's Vogue!

In 2017, her son, Prince Harry, spoke about Diana's efforts to support HIV/AIDS sufferers. Her empathy in comforting terminally ill patients, even when some family members hesitated, demonstrated a remarkable compassion, embodying what it truly means to be The People's Princess.

Marlene Dietrich

Marlene Dietrich's early 20th-century impact on women mirrored Harry Styles' present-day impact on men. Her public displays of wearing men's attire challenged societal norms, much as Styles's fashion choices have impacted the public.

Her fearless and assertive presence challenged traditional gender roles and expectations for women's attire, though reactions to men wearing women's clothing remain significantly different today.

Marlene Dietrich's openness about affairs with both men and women cemented her reputation for sexual liberation and confidence. Renouncing her German citizenship during Hitler's rise to power demonstrates her steadfast courage. This is one gay icon who truly commands respect!

Dolly Parton

A devoutly religious figure, Dolly Parton embraces a compassionate Christian message focused on kindness and empathy for all. She refutes those who misuse religious doctrine to spread hatred and promotes acceptance.

Her song Family highlights acceptance for individuals facing various challenges, including those of the LGBTQ community, even in 1991.

Dolly's public advocacy for marriage equality demonstrates her genuine embrace of the LGBTQ community. Furthermore, Dolly's fondness for drag performances is well-known. She's been a guest on numerous drag shows, demonstrating acceptance and affection for the gay community.

Dolly's endearingly honest moments make her a cherished icon!

Madonna

During a time when female musicians faced pressure to conform or be sanitized, Madonna's unapologetic embrace of her sensuality and creativity made her a pivotal figure. Her work challenged prevailing conventions and revitalized the popular music scene with vibrant, upbeat tracks like Holiday, Borderline, and Like A Virgin.

Madonna consistently challenged norms. During the AIDS epidemic, she fostered an active and welcoming environment for members of the LGBTQ community by addressing HIV/AIDS awareness in her Like a Prayer CD case and her documentary Truth or Dare.

She remains an ardent advocate, actively participating in key LGBTQ events like the 2019 Eurovision Song Contest and NYC Pride. Her vocal support for LGBTQ rights, including challenging Putin's anti-LGBTQ stance during a Russian performance, further exemplifies her unwavering support, despite significant personal risk.

Ellen DeGeneres

Beyond the 2020 controversies, Ellen's unwavering dedication to the LGBTQ community makes her a noteworthy icon. Her 1997 coming-out on her sitcom, Ellen, a time when gay people were still commonly portrayed as caricatures, was a watershed moment. This portrayal of a confident, independent lesbian on mainstream television shattered stereotypes.

Her interview with Oprah, discussing her coming out, continues to resonate. Despite initial cancellation of the show, Ellen persevered, to ultimately become a daytime television staple, demonstrating resilience.

Her 2008 wedding to Portia Di Rossi further normalized gay marriage. Her show's support of queer artists, like Sam Smith and Troye Sivan, further illustrates her profound commitment.

Kylie Minogue

This Australian superstar is a musical icon, representing acceptance and spreading love. Her music has been a pillar of enjoyment and excitement in gay nights for many years now.

Kylie consistently displays her support for the LGBTQ community, including performances at Pride events and collaborations with her sister Dannii, who also merits recognition on this list. Kylie openly expresses her aspiration to appear on RuPaul's Drag Race.

She asserts that her popularity stems from her daring style. Kylie Minogue's fashion choices demonstrate unique and incredible boldness!

Elton John

Elton John's captivating stage presence often masked his true identity for years, making his eventual disclosure even more profound.

His 1976 declaration of bisexuality, later confirmed as homosexuality, was a momentous act of honesty. He established the Elton John AIDS Foundation in 1992 to support those impacted by HIV/AIDS. His commitment continues to inspire. His partnership with David Furnish and their adoptive family underscore the importance of inclusivity.

Elton's influence on LGBTQ rights is undeniable. His dedication to supporting LGBTQ rights is undeniable.

Elizabeth Taylor

Elizabeth Taylor was one of the earliest celebrities to address the AIDS crisis during the 1980s, an unprecedented moment given President Reagan's silence on the issue. Her advocacy for the LGBTQ community placed her among the most influential gay icons.

Taylor's activism extended to opposing homophobia within Hollywood. As a trusted confidant to closeted gay actors, she navigated complex relationships. Her support for marriage equality and acceptance continues to have a profound effect on LGBTQ+ rights.

Elizabeth Taylor's early and profound support of the LGBTQ+ rights movement continues to be valued today.

Sir Ian McKellen

Widely acclaimed for his role as Gandalf in the “Lord of the Rings” series, Ian McKellen is a significant figure for LGBTQ individuals. He experienced a time when homosexuality was criminalized in the UK.

McKellen recalls the cruel bullying he endured in school for his perceived homosexuality. His experiences mirror those of many LGBTQ individuals who faced similar prejudice. His unwavering advocacy for LGBTQ rights during the 1980s and 90s is remarkable. His signing a homophobic politician's autograph with the words "F--- off, I'm gay" is a powerful statement of defiance.

His continued involvement in LGBTQ Pride events and his work as an ordained minister for LGBTQ weddings highlight his profound influence on the community.

David Bowie

Before Lady Gaga, there was Bowie—laying the groundwork for her unique artistic vision. His unconventional appearance with striking red hair, makeup, and vibrant attire initially challenged societal norms.

Bowie embraced homosexuality and challenged the prevailing heteronormative culture, even when still married. His evolving self-perception—including his acknowledgment of his bisexuality and self-identification as a closet heterosexual—demonstrates his profound contribution to LGBTQ+ visibility.

His outlandish stage performances and unconventional approach to self-expression serve as a potent symbol for individuals who feel alienated by society. His songs were anthems for the marginalized.

Barbra Streisand

Why is Barbra Streisand considered a gay icon? Because she embraces both Broadway and strong women—pivotal elements deeply valued in the gay community.

Before her Broadway breakthrough, Streisand connected with a gay audience through nightclub performances. She famously performed at a local gay bar. This bold step launched her career.

Streisand has openly championed LGBTQ rights, actively participating in campaigns against legislation that threatened marriage equality. Her attempts to bring a gay-themed play to the big screen—though unsuccessful—demonstrate a commitment to inclusivity. Her love letter to the LGBTQ community reaffirms her support.

Freddie Mercury

The world mourned Freddie Mercury's passing in 1991. His revelation of his AIDS diagnosis just 24 hours before his death underscored the urgent need for greater acceptance and awareness.

His flamboyant and theatrical stage persona deeply resonated with the LGBTQ+ community, embodying the freedom of expression that many craved. The iconic “Break Free” video, with Queen in drag, further highlights this aspect.

Although he identified as bisexual, his private life remained largely unknown. The 2018 biopic highlights his relationship with Jim Hutton. This enduring legacy inspires LGBTQ+ visibility and celebration.

The Freddy Mercury Tribute Concert for AIDS in 1992 successfully raised significant funds to support those affected by the disease.

Bette Midler

Bette Midler's iconic role in "Hocus Pocus," complete with a red wig and green frock, is a timeless Halloween favorite for drag queens.

Her performance as Mama Rose in "Gypsy" remains a significant contribution to queer culture. Midler has vocalized her support for the gay community and rights, challenging figures like Mike Pence and Kim Davis.

Her support for LGBTQ+ rights, combined with her experiences performing in gay bathhouses, highlight the reasons behind her incredible success.

Beyonce

Beyoncé's music has deeply resonated with the gay community for over two decades, consistently inspiring excitement and joy on dance floors worldwide. She has been and continues to be a remarkable icon!

Beyoncé embodies modern feminism. Her music promotes empowerment, self-love, and celebration. Her visual album, Lemonade, showcases same-sex couples and features transgender actress Laverne Cox. The recent GLAAD award win is also a significant mark in history.

Beyoncé's dedication to the LGBTQ community and support for equality resonates deeply within the community.

Celine Dion

Despite her quirky interviews and unique style, Celine Dion is often overlooked as a gay icon. However, her unique talent and dedication warrant recognition.

Dion embodies the qualities many in the gay community value—exuding camp, talent, and vibrance. Her openly expressing affection for a gay friend in her song "Ziggy" and a touching music video—complete with a heartwarming near-kiss—showcases her compassionate and warmhearted nature.

Her artistic talent and compassion are remarkable.

Laverne Cox

Laverne Cox's trailblazing impact on the trans community is immeasurable. The cover of Time magazine—the first for a trans person—signaled a critical turning point. Her career in Orange Is the New Black and Pose increased trans visibility.

Cox, in her career, spoke to crucial issues facing trans individuals, including healthcare needs, the importance of using correct pronouns, and the devastatingly high rate of trans homicides.

Laverne Cox's impact on the trans community continues to have a profound and enduring effect on the rights and lives of transgender individuals.

Billy Porter

Billy Porter's journey to success is not an overnight achievement. While his notable appearances—including the Met Gala red carpet and the Oscars—brought him prominence, his dedication is long-standing. His roles, such as Teen Angel in Grease and Lola in Kinky Boots—for which he won a Tony Award— highlight his remarkable talent.

Billy Porter's struggles with feeling both "too black" and "too gay" are relatable to many who face similar societal pressures and bias. His experiences resonate with those who have faced prejudice or rejection. Porter consistently empowers the gay community by showcasing individuality.

Billy Porter's impact extends to Ryan Murphy's "Pose," a series with an exceptional cast of black trans/non-binary actors.

Porter is an exceptional and inspirational gay icon.