Forced gay cuckold

One might assume that nobody enjoys betrayal, however, the reality is that some individuals do! And astonishingly, it heightens their arousal!

Within the realm of sexual imaginings, cuckolding—which essentially entails observing one's wife or female partner engage in sexual activity with another man, particularly one possessing a larger phallus—is a long-established concept. Indeed, the nomenclature has existed for centuries. Traditionally, it exclusively designated the spouse of a woman who committed adultery. Presently, its connotation encompasses significantly more.

In previous writings, I've discussed heterosexual men engaging in coitus with other males within cuckold scenarios with a woman present, and finding pleasure in it. This dynamic can be profoundly interwoven with sensations of ignominy and subjugation for the cuckold, sensations that the partner being cuckolded perceives as intensely gratifying and erotically stimulating within the context of the fantasy.

Additional iterations include "footcuck," wherein the individual playing the cuckold role functions as a foot servant to both his partner and the man with whom she is intimately involved. Frequently, when his partner identifies a "bull" and brings him home for sexual intimacy, the cuckold is compelled to sexually arouse both of them using his mouth and/or hands, observing the encounter, and often even cleaning them afterward.

At times, the cuckold engages in self-gratification while observing; on other occasions, he is bound, gagged, and mandated to witness the act. Alternatively, he might be positioned in a separate area of the room, even directed to record the event and review it later—all the while experiencing significant arousal. It's important to remember that these are all forms of role-playing and fantasy.

In the digital sphere, cuckolding has achieved remarkable penetration. In fact, investigative work by neuroscientists Ogi Ogas and Sai Gaddam revealed that "cuckold porn" ranks as the second most sought-after heterosexual interest across English-speaking search engines! Solely the term "youth" garners greater attention. This finding is quite startling for numerous therapists, yet even more surprising is the emergence of this phenomenon within the homosexual community as well.

Gay cuckolding

Up until recently, cuckolding within the gay male demographic had not been substantially recognized nor, for that matter, demonstrably present. Dan Savage, the widely syndicated sex-advice columnist, in conjunction with David Ley, Ph.D., the author of Insatiable Wives: Women Who Stray and the Men Who Love Them, and Justin J. Lehmiller, Ph.D., have initiated a novel cuckolding inquiry within the LGBT community, which, it is hoped, will illuminate this phenomenon further and provide deeper insights into its prevalence and scope.

The primary venues where gay cuckolding is currently discernible are Tumblr and various blogs such as Reddit, where an increasing volume of cuckolding-related content and imagery is appearing. Crucially, gay cuckolding is distinguishable from engaging in a threesome. In a threesome, all participants share an equal standing, whereas in cuckolding, one individual is deliberately excluded and subjected to taunting or degradation for the arousal of all involved in the imagined scenario.

What's behind the rise in gay cuckolding?

My foremost curiosity, however, lies in determining whether this trend correlates with the legalization of same-sex marriage, or if it might represent an encroachment of heterosexual cultural norms into gay culture.

My hypothesis is that the psychological underpinnings driving homosexual individuals to participate in or fantasize about cuckolding will likely mirror those observed in the heterosexual populace. The majority of sexual fantasies possess connections to an individual's formative years and past experiences. Conversely, on occasion, they arise independently and constitute merely an intensely stimulating fantasy without any discernible causal factor.

Cuckolding's appeal

Cuckolding represents yet another category of "kinkiness" that has historically resided in the periphery of many individuals' intimate lives. It incorporates elements of dominance and control. Positioned on the spectrum of submission and domination, it can be a source of considerable sexual excitation.

Inevitably, these desires can originate from a facet of the psyche that has been shaped by one's history, both positively and negatively. Most frequently, these urges can be traced back to factors such as childhood adversity. However, the genesis can be as subtle as experiencing diminished self-worth—perhaps stemming from insecurities regarding one's penile size—or any formative childhood event, whether positive or negative, that becomes ingrained and subsequently eroticized, such as exclusion from a parental relationship.

A significant number of individuals—as well as therapists—tend to pathologize this, questioning how something originating from a negative source could possibly yield a positive outcome. The truth of the matter is that a substantial portion of our collective fantasies derive from our personal histories—encompassing both favorable and unfavorable elements. Events, encounters, and relationships often become eroticized at a later stage in life.

Going from fantasy to reality

This particular fantasy can be exceptionally compelling to entertain and actualize, yet it necessitates careful management should a couple opt to transform it into a tangible experience.

Notwithstanding cuckolding's prevalence in online searches, certain elements are perhaps best left as imaginative constructs. As long as the engagement remains strictly within the confines of imagination, no issues arise... until, for instance, the wife uncovers her husband's searches for cuckold pornography and is repulsed, or if the couple decides to explore this dynamic without thoroughly discussing the potential ramifications. In such instances, hurt sentiments may emerge, or unexpected feelings of jealousy might surface, or the wife might realize that it diminishes her own arousal. Subsequently, the couple seeks therapy for counseling, where the foundational reasons behind the fantasy are explored. This scenario is also applicable to same-sex male partnerships.

In my professional capacity, I approach the subject of cuckolding in a manner analogous to how a couple should manage the opening of their relationship: through extensive dialogue, guidance from literature and professional therapists, the establishment of clear boundaries, the creation of a shared sexual vision for the progression of events, the implementation of a safe word for situations that deviate negatively, and post-event debriefing.

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It is imperative to underscore that there is absolutely nothing pathological or aberrant about such fantasies. For illustration, heterosexual and bisexual men displaying nude or erotic imagery of their partners is quite prevalent, as is the fantasy of witnessing one's wife engaging in intercourse with another man. Within the gay community, numerous individuals derive pleasure simply from exchanging penis photographs and engaging in threesomes while observing each other during mutual masturbation with a third male participant.

In actuality, everyone harbors one or more "unconventional," non-politically correct fantasies. The variations in sexual arousal triggers appear to be limitless. The internet has merely facilitated the transference of these desires from our minds to online platforms, thereby granting us enhanced accessibility. Ideally, bringing these elements into the open will foster a greater sense of comfort with our latent fantasies and contribute to the mending of psychological harm incurred within a sexually restrictive society.

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