Top Gay Positions

Have you ever engaged in discussions about sexual stances with companions, only for someone to abruptly introduce a rather peculiar favorite?

For instance, consider the pinball wizard, the snow angel, the butter churner, pretzel dip, or perhaps the magic mountain. And your reaction is simply, "What on earth???"

This very scenario unfolded recently on Love Island UK, when contestant Luca inquired about fellow islander Paige's preferred position, to which she responded with "broken eagle," leaving everyone quite perplexed.

She elaborated, stating, "It's akin to when the woman is situated beneath, resting on her stomach; you know how women often sleep with their bodies partially bent and the other half extended, while the man engages in his activity."

If you're embarking on your sexual journey, or perhaps you've been content with the same couple of techniques throughout your intimate life, the prospect of exploring new avenues can feel rather daunting. You might find yourself pondering, 'Am I experiencing lackluster intimacy? Are others engaging in adventurous and innovative acts? What, in reality, constitute the most advantageous and sought-after sexual orientations?'

Well, we've got precisely what you need!

The Most Widely Embraced Sexual Postures

When it comes to matters of sexual positions, numerous resources and publications tend to be rather focused on penile-vaginal interactions. However, here at The Hook Up, our ethos champions inclusivity. Therefore, irrespective of whether you identify as gay, straight, or bisexual, we present the top ten sexual positions and the methods for executing them - designed for every single person.

1. Doggy Style

A fitting descriptor.

On our Instagram page, @triplejthehookup, this particular stance emerged as the most favored! A significant 35% of our audience selected doggy style as their preferred position.

You conveyed that doggy style was among your favorites for achieving deep penetration and heightened pleasure, and sex therapist Christopher Brett-Renes indicates that Doggy is a go-to choice for gay men.

"Typically, the receptive partner is positioned on all fours, or they might adopt a posture with their head lowered and posterior elevated, while the penetrating partner kneels or stands with the receptive partner situated at the edge of the bed."

Should your pairing involve two individuals with vulvas, you can absolutely still relish the doggy style using a strap-on. Alternatively, engaging in grinding and rubbing against each other, employing fingers for stimulation, or massaging your partner's clitoris or nipples can also be highly satisfying.

Sexologist Lauren French suggests that for enhanced penetration depth, you could lower your arms, supporting yourself on your forearms with your face closer to the surface.

"I believe this offers a superior angle compared to being on hands and knees; and with the potential addition of a pillow for elevation, you're likely to achieve your deepest penetration."

2. Missionary Position

Indeed, there's absolutely nothing commonplace about the missionary position. It secures the second spot as your most favored stance!

Lauren suggests that despite the missionary position sometimes receiving a less-than-stellar reputation, it provides an excellent opportunity for fostering intimacy. Think of those moments of sustained eye contact and close facial proximity.

"Furthermore, the depth of penetration in the missionary position can be adjusted by simply placing cushions beneath the partner on the bottom, thereby elevating their pelvis, which can remarkably alter the sensation of penetration."

Chris notes that it might present a slight challenge for two individuals with penises unless they possess a degree of flexibility.

"The receptive partner positions themselves on their back, but due to the anatomical placement of the anus, their legs often need to be raised to enable the penetrating partner to achieve entry."

For engagements between two vulvas, a strap-on can again be utilized, or even just fingers!

3. Cowgirl/Cowboy/Cowthey ;)

A resounding "Yeee haw!"

Described as another classic by Chris, the cowboy position involves the receptive partner straddling the penetrating partner, who is reclining on a surface (be it a bed, the floor, or elsewhere), facing the top.

"A significant advantage of the cowboy position is that it affords the receptive partner considerable influence over both the pace and the depth of penetration."

This arrangement functions identically for the cowgirl variation when considering partners of a male and female gender. If you are the partner in the bottom position, you can engage in playful stimulation of your partner's breasts or nipples.

And Lauren suggests that to enhance the experience, you could opt for:

4. Reverse Cowgirl

"In this stance, the woman is positioned facing away from the man, towards his feet. It offers an exceptional view of the buttocks, and participants can either be standing or on their knees."

5. Spooning

Evoking a wonderfully relaxed, almost slumbering ambiance! It also possesses the capacity to be profoundly intimate.

"Essentially, both individuals recline on their sides, with one person positioned behind the other. I believe a significant portion of spooning involves either a bent-leg configuration or one leg slightly elevated for the person in front, thereby granting a degree of access," observes Lauren.

This can also be an excellent posture for couples with vulvas, where the individual in the larger spoon position might use their fingers to stimulate the smaller spoon's clitoris and/or breasts. A strap-on can also be incorporated here.

"I find these positions highly beneficial due to the ease with which the clitoris can be accessed. This significantly increases the likelihood of achieving orgasm, which is indeed remarkable."

Chris asserts that it's also a remarkably intimate position for two individuals with penises.

"This can be a deeply intimate posture with the receptive partner (the little spoon) lying in front of the penetrating partner (the big spoon) and being entered from behind. This positioning naturally lends itself to kissing and caressing each other's bodies."

6. 69

A quintessential favorite within the queer community!

Notwithstanding its somewhat dated reputation, the 69 position remains a widely practiced technique among same-sex partners.

For those unfamiliar, "it entails simultaneously engaging in oral sex with each other. In other words, performing fellatio and cunnilingus concurrently, thereby creating the characteristic six-nine configuration."

Lauren also points out that for certain couples, significant differences in height can pose a logistical challenge.

"If you have a considerably taller partner or a considerably shorter partner, the 69 position can become quite problematic."

Sex Therapist Naomi Hutchings states that for queer women, the supine 69 arrangement is exceptionally common.

"One lies between the other's legs. This method is generally gentler. Furthermore, some individuals may experience discomfort in certain body parts or may be feeling fatigued, making this particular approach more comfortable."

Chris concurs that it's beneficial to explore which variation of the 69 position best suits your needs.

"For some, reclining on their sides is the most effective method, particularly if your sexual partner possesses a larger penis, while others find that one partner lying on the bed with the other positioned on top works well; however, for the individual beneath, this can present difficulties."

7. Scissoring

Frequently the subject of jokes concerning lesbian intimacy, yet Naomi asserts that scissoring, "while not invariably the primary choice, certainly does occur."

To perform this, position your partner lying on their side, and then you straddle their legs. The objective is to ensure both your clitorises are in direct contact and rubbing against each other.

"I encountered a humorous meme regarding this activity, humorously suggesting the potential for back strain, and people often find it amusing. As a queer individual, we frequently discuss such matters, but indeed, numerous people genuinely appreciate it because the friction involved is highly pleasurable.

And for a considerable number of individuals, this form of friction represents a highly satisfying pathway to sexual pleasure and climax."

8. Prone Boning

An often-overlooked favorite!

Described as incredibly straightforward by Chris for gay men, "the receptive partner lies flat while the penetrating partner enters from behind and positions themselves on top."

When practiced between a man and a woman, prone boning has the potential to amplify various sensations.

"Keeping the legs together can enhance numerous sensations, but it also has the effect of limiting movement capabilities," states Lauren.

"For instance, how does one adjust their head position? How does one manage their breathing? I'm envisioning a scenario with one's head buried in a pillow, while experiencing intense penetration."

9. Oral Sex

Oral sex is, to put it mildly, exceptional - a true chef's kiss - and some would argue it's a crucial component of foreplay or the entire sexual encounter.

When engaging with a partner who has a vulva, whether you are performing cunnilingus or they are performing fellatio, oral sex can play a significant role in facilitating their orgasm.

"While alternative methods certainly exist, we are aware that direct oral stimulation of the vulva is typically the most effective route to achieving orgasm for most individuals, although the use of fingers or external clitoral stimulation is also beneficial," notes Naomi.

And Chris mentions that a substantial number of men actually prefer receiving oral sex over anal sex.

"Oral sex involves a sexual partner caressing (and importantly, not blowing) the recipient's penis with their mouth. Many men favor oral intimacy over anal intimacy, whereas for others, oral can be quite a turn-off - thus, I strongly encourage open communication with your sexual partners regarding your preferences and dislikes."

10. Mutual Masturbation

If you're not particularly inclined towards contorting your body into complex positions for intercourse, Lauren suggests that masturbating simultaneously while observing each other can be a highly arousing experience.

"Witnessing your partner achieve orgasm while you are also experiencing one, that scenario sounds incredibly thrilling to me."

Encore: Something With a Bit More Zing

Should all of these positions have become routine in your intimate life and you're seeking novelty or a heightened level of excitement, Lauren advises altering the venue. Consider activities like shower sex, car sex, or even engaging in intimacy on a kitchen counter. Incorporating a sex toy into the mix is another option. However, she also cautions against becoming overly ambitious.

"Avoid attempting to implement four new elements simultaneously. Many individuals decide, 'I wish to inject some excitement. Therefore, I shall acquire a new toy, we shall attempt a novel position, it will occur in the shower, and it will take place during daylight hours.'"

And I'm inclined to think that this approach is a prime recipe for potential mishaps, such as slipping and sustaining an ankle injury.

Therefore, select just one enjoyable new activity to explore. Inform your partner about your intentions in advance to allow them ample preparation time, and then proceed with planning accordingly. However, there's no need to completely reinvent the wheel; simply introduce a small element of novelty."

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